Elaine Grundy

Writing your ideal scene is a fantastic way to focus on what your priorities are, as well as giving you a guiding light to navigate your way through the turmoil this year will bring.  It is a way to keep yourself grounded, forward-looking, and living with authenticity.

Over the years I have seen the most incredible changes take place in my life in just one year, and obviously as those incredible years shape into a decade, its a big deal!

Your ideal scene does not have to be full of lofty ideals, though it can be.  Nor does it need to be ambitious or full of targets and goals, through again, more power to you if that’s what you want!  I have found each year to be different; when I first began writing them back in 2005, I was so far from my ‘ideal’ that it was indeed full of fantastic goals and dreams (all of which came true).   As the years have gone on, I have had less external goals and dreams and more internal wishes for presence, patience, and inner peace – partly due to many of my external dreams having already come true!

My suggestion to you is to get yourself ‘in the mood’ first – the higher your vibration when you write, the better.  Every month when we complete our Reiki Share we close with an intention circle, over the years the group has seen incredible success with our intentions, and I am sure it is because we are all in such a high energy state as we sit together and share our dreams and aspirations.  Our thoughts and wishes zoom into the universe with such light and love surrounding it, its really a done deal!

If you are doing this on your own and you have Reiki, it would be fantastic to do a self-treatment first before you start.  Otherwise try meditation, yoga, dancing – whatever puts you in a happy state, a place where you are more flowing, more expansive and more optimistic than you would normally be.  The bigger you can dream the better!

Law of Attraction is really about setting authentic intentions, and then moving towards them.  I remember years ago listening to Dr. Phil talk about his mother and the fact that he cannot remember one moment where she raised her voice at him in all the years he lived with her.  At the time I was stunned, it had never occurred to me that, as a mother, I could also have such a lofty ideal.  Over the years I have striven (and struggled) to temper my tone with my children and have always had something loving to say about our relationship in all my ideal scenes.  Over the years I have also seen myself improve and my tone soften to the point that this year I feel ready to stop shouting altogether.  I simply no longer see the benefit or point.  Still, its a massive ask as its been a parenting skill passed down through many generations!  But that is the point of ideal scenes – to stretch yourself into new territory that you otherwise would not have thought possible.

Its important to remember though, that ideal scenes do not create themselves.  Once you write them, be sure that you believe in them, and you believe in yourself.  Write about things you truly care about, that you are committed to, and that make your heart sing.  If you want a salary raise to get your partner off your back, or you want a better relationship with your parents because you feel guilty, then trust me, you will not have the motivation to make the changes in your habits to make it work.  Better to focus on areas of your life that you know will make a real difference to you, not to those around you.

I hope this helps make this the best year for you ever!
For an explanation of how to write your Ideal scene, please see my earlier post.

To flow through life is to experience fluidity, flexibility, peace,
and an inner joy that comes from being fully present.  Most of us
reach for these feelings of peace and joy through striving, achieving,
and pushing.  But flow is not resistance, it is the lack of resistance
that creates inner peace.

Aligned with my passion for teaching Reiki is personal coaching.  I teach workshops on Law of
Attraction, and The Work of Byron Katie.  I help people intent on following their own
inner current, and wanting to see it authentically present in every
aspect of their lives.

This is my blog on all things flowing, and some not so.  I write about what I learn through my own life, and through watching my students, clients, friends, family.

For all things Reiki as well as Workshops, Talks and fun things to learn, please go to www.reikicentre.com.sg

Several years ago I was on a year long Law of Attraction course with Eva Gregory, Attraction Coach Extraordinaire.  I learnt lots of fantastic tips from her and the rest of my year long coaches but my favourite is the ‘Ideal Scene’.

Its so simple and so effective.  The first time I wrote this I was living in Long Island, New York.  To be honest I wasn’t in a very good space mentally, physically or emotionally.  I had spent the past 3 years at home with my two babies, and was exhausted, and certainly not in flow.  It was a desperate lurch to get myself back into the groove and out of the funk I had allowed myself to sink into, so I had an ‘all or nothing’ approach to it, and with hindsight I think that’s why the first year was so phenomenal for me – I had a huge list of things I wanted to turn around including the continent I lived in, the work I was doing, my relationship with my kids, my husband, myself, my diet and well-being, my emotional state, my community….a pretty long list!

So I just went for it, I figured, I have nothing to loose – its only paper and ink

What you do is write the date a year ahead at the top of the page, ie Jan 1st 2010, then you begin “What an incredible year its been!…” or something similar.  Then you write about all the different aspects of your life that you would like to see change, it could be your ‘perfect home’, your ‘perfect relationship’ or your ‘perfect job’ and ideally should cover all aspects of your life that are important to you – run into several pages and make it as rich and juicy and exciting as you dare!

Here’s the synopsis of how much stretch I put into mine: (bear in mind I was living in the USA at the time I wrote this and we were settled in a home we owned, my husband was working for a multi-national, and Singapore was nowhere near our discussion list, neither was leaving the US)

1. I wanted to live in Singapore
2. I wanted to celebrate my 40th birthday in Bali with ALL my family, and siblings
3. I wanted to be teaching regularly again
4. I wanted to be doing something worthwhile with my brain again
5. and a whole bunch of personal emotional and relationship balance stuff.

In one year, I achieved all that.  Some aspects were different to what I had imagined, and some took slightly more than a year to actualize, but in all cases I saw massive progress.  So you can see why I now do this every year!

I think part of the magic is in focusing yourself on what you want, and being honest about what aspects of your life are far from ideal.  For example, if you write ‘I had a wonderfully nurturing year with my husband and our relationship just grows from strength to strength’ and you choke on your tea as you write this – then you know you have some work in this area!  The same goes for anything you write, ‘my job fulfills and excites me, I created so much value this year with my projects and connections with my team that my boss gave me a substantial raise! I can’t wait to see what this year holds for me’…etc.  Just go for it, whatever makes you excited, passionate, whatever would make you deeply fulfilled and happy, get it all down on paper and create some energy around it.

Eva asked us to be very specific, eg, my boss gave me a raise of $20,000! but I have to say that personally I find such specifics limiting, I prefer words like ‘huge’ or ‘substantial’ or ‘bigger than I could imagine!’  I also focus more on the kind of feelings I want, rather than the type of ‘behaviour’ I want, eg. I would prefer to write “my children and I continue to develop a loving and fulfilling relationship based on deep respect for each other” as it helps to be my guiding light – when I am shouting at my kids to ‘hurry up’ I can do a quick check, is this ‘loving’ or ‘fulfilling’ or ‘respectful’?  This is much more effective at changing behaviour then writing ‘my children are incredible, they are so polite and obedient all the time’ which sort of sets you up for failure right there and then

Once you have your Ideal Scene,then just move towards it, one step at a time, you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve in a year!