What keeps you from going over the deep end when mothering seems to be nothing but endless sleepless nights, days full of chores, and nothing but stress and tantrums? For me, it is the knowledge that parenthood is forever changing, some moments are horribly challenging, and others are easier and deliciously fun.
My mothering seems to be going through an easier phase at the moment. I was pondering this during one of several blissfully lazy afternoons by the pool whilst I watched my children play and read a book! Can this be true? Can my children fend for themselves for afew moments whilst I actually do stuff I want to do??
Pick me up for I have fainted!
Isn't this great? Without the struggle of 24/7 early motherhood, who could imagine the pure joy and delight of spending 20 minutes reading a book in the sunshine! Wow, it was amazing, I felt all luxurious and pampered. I know, sad, but true. It also made me realise that every part of parenthood is a phase. When we are in the throws of 'babyhood' it seems this little precious bundle will never be strong enough, independent enough to fend for themselves - parenthood as we know it then seems to straddle off into the distance, we'll be forever shackledto the tedium and exhaustion. But afew short years (ah, I know, it seems like an eternity, but you'll get there!) and here we are, playing in a pool together laughing and enjoying each others' company - not a tantrum in sight.
I've noticed that if I hold onto the thought that 'this too will pass', I can get through the monster child phases more effortlessly, and it also reminds me to take hold of those moments in the water and ENJOY and savour and soak it all up, because those too, will eventually pass.
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